November 04th, 2020

Trust Your Love, Question Your Doubt

There tends to be a mistrust of all that is good, enjoyable, loving and happy. It is common to say things, such as, ‘enjoy it while it lasts,’ implying that whatever is good is fleeting. When things are going well, with the promise of even better, and doubt starts to creep in you begin to question the situation. Can I really trust this? Are they for real? They’re being too nice, they must want something? The implication is that ‘it’s too good to be true,’ which of course, suggests that good things are not to be trusted. The key to remember is that you’ll always find for what you are looking.

There is often more value placed on what is painful or negative than on what is loving. A person can be incredibly loving and supportive for as long as you’ve known them, however, if they lie to you once, then they are never to be trusted again. They must gain your trust by proving their love. There is often a thinking that the person has shown their ‘true colours.’ The focus becomes on the other having to change their behaviour in some way in order to make you feel safe, vindicated, or supported.

The question to consider is why did the doubt begin to creep in, in the first place? The tendency is to think that it means some big truth is going to be revealed about the situation or relationship. What it does indicate is that there is a limiting belief around your sense of love which has resulted in having the unpleasant experience that you did. The more awareness that you gain around this, then the more so there is a possibility to change your beliefs and, in turn, the experiences that you have. The person may have done what they did, however, the bigger question is why did you have that particular experience with them. Upon exploration, you’ll eventually find that it is due to a belief that involves a limitation about how much love you’re willing to receive. It may come across in the form of, “you can’t count on anyone but yourself,” or “people always disappoint,” or whatever statements reflect your lack of value, worth and lovability relative to your self in that situation.

It would be useful to see your self as your Higher Self/ core essence sees you in order to expand your space of receiving what is good, loving, interesting, curious and joyful. Your Self is always loving, supportive, and encouraging. You are always connected to your Self, however, your self always has the freedom to choose to be congruent with this aspect of Self or not. The less you are attuned to Self, which is connected to All, then the more you experience struggle, pain and unpleasantness. The more you are attuned to Self, then the more you experience joy, love, and your heart’s desirings.