How to Use the Awareness of the Image that You Project to Enhance Your Experiences (Part I)
The clues of how to change your undesirable patterns are within your interactions with others.
There is a myriad of ways to explore your self, your relationships and your experiences. Whether it’s projection, mirroring, or alignment/ congruency, essentially, they all end up meaning the same thing. However, different ways of viewing the self will resonate differently from one person to the next.
Are you aware of what image you hold of your self? Your core essence always sees you as nothing but absolutely lovable. When you are open to seeing your self that way then you feel good due to you being attuned to your self, Self and All. You are in a space of allowance and receptivity which translates into enjoyable and desirable experiences. The image you project and see mirrored back is one of which is to your liking. You find that you feel loved and are loving.
However, when you are trying to make some ‘not enough’ version of your self true, then you will experience unpleasantness in regard to how you feel about your self, the types of experiences you have, and how others see you (or essentially what they are mirroring back to you).
It really does become a distorted house of mirrors once you begin to understand that how you see another person has its roots in how you perceive your self. In addition, how they see you is a reflection of how they are holding themselves. It could be things such as judgment, acceptance, allowance, blame or acknowledgement. Whatever it may be, it’s not always a straight across clear reflection. For example, if you are judging someone for being selfish, it is highly likely that the resentment you are feeling toward them is due to your not taking time for your self or acknowledging your self in some way or area of your life.
It is one of the possible ways to begin to shift into more desirable patterns by creating awareness around, and discerning, what your experiences mean. An element of this process may include identifying for what you are judging or blaming someone else. Put a ‘label’ on it, for example, abusive, thoughtless, coldhearted, and then explore how that might relate to some way that you are interacting with your self. If you identify someone as abusive, then you are feeling as if you are a victim. This doesn’t necessarily mean that you are being abusive to someone else, however, it may suggest that you are punishing your self, in some way, for some “not enoughness,’ of which you may or may not be consciously aware. It will usually be associated with some old belief that is now creating limitations and feelings of powerlessness/ victim. It is not to suggest that the person isn’t being abusive, as they probably are, however, the bigger question is why are you having that particular interaction with that person at that time?
Once you get a handle on working with your experiences in this way, then it may be part of one of the methods to assist you in beginning to realize how you can influence your life in ways that you truly desire.