February 02nd, 2021

From Worry to Wholeness – A simple technique of what to do when someone you love is struggling

When you are fearful and don’t know what to do, then worrying is often the outcome. It feels more active than being afraid or anxious. It may give you the sense that you are doing something when you really feel powerless to do anything. The downside is that it tends to perpetuate further feelings of fear, anxiety and worry as you run through possible outcomes, which usually fall under worse case scenarios. To go from this state, to not worrying, is often unrealistic in the moment.

We all connect energetically, and then, physically. Most of us are not conscious of this order of events. Knowing this, can assist with a better use of time, than worrying, when feeling powerless. This technique can be useful if there is someone in your life that feels beyond your reach and entrenched in, what is perceived as, a self destructive behaviour. The norm is to see this person as having issues and in need of fixing. Holding this image of them resonates with the not enough, shameful or guilty feelings that they may have about themselves. The interactions, that typically follow, aren’t positive or constructive, as you both intersect in fear. When there is no communication occurring, or negative interactions, then it may be useful to take a break from whatever method you are using to talk to the person, and instead focus on engaging on the energetic level.

Begin by doing your best to move into a space of congruency with your self to Self to All (previous articles speak to this). If the worry prevents you from going right into that space then intend or visualize your self and the other person as your energetic selves. You may see each of you as you are, or orbs of light, or any other form or idea that comes to you. To the best of your ability, under whatever circumstances may be present, see them as whole in this form, not broken or in need of fixing. Hold a space of wholeness and compassion for them to energetically breathe into. Send them an energy of loving acceptance as they are, in that moment, not if and when.

This is understandably challenging when you know or can see them struggling and in pain. However, one of the most powerful things that you can do for another is to see them as whole, and in turn, compassionately assist in envisioning or intending this space of healing, where they can begin to attune to their unconditionally loving higher Self/ core essence. Feel free to communicate with the other in this energetic form. Trust what you sense. There may be fluctuations or days where it feels as if the energy between you is flowing, and other days when you may feel as if you are hitting a brick wall. In the case of the latter, feel free to gently send accepting loving energy and see/ intend for it to softly encompass the other and be there for when they are open to allowing it. The more you work with the person(s) you have chosen, in this manner, the more you may be surprised with what starts to happen in your actual physical level interactions.

There are other aspects of this process of functioning as a multidimensional being to work with another on a number of levels to create shifting and movement. However, exploring and practicing this one will allow for the opportunity to engage without the usual resistances.